I don't rate monogamy highly. I reckon it is the cause of much frustration and unhappiness.

I see it as a life style option no better nor worse than any other number of options.

I have two regular lovers - I neither ask of them nor expect of them to tell me if they see other guys - that is their prerogative. I have told them that my non monogamous attitude is non-negotiable and if they cannot accept that then there's no point being uptight, I'll just go.

I think a vital love life is essential for psychic health.

i think it depends on the individual.unlike other animals which tend to be either monogamus or polygamus according to their species,humans have diverse approaches to it!

I have never had but one lover and we have been together since we were fifteen... we are now 28 and married. It's the most beautiful, wonderful and non-frustrating relationship there could ever be.

So there you go xxx

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cool mr moon

Mr Moon wrote:

I have never had but one lover and we have been together since we were fifteen... we are now 28 and married. It's the most beautiful, wonderful and non-frustrating relationship there could ever be. So there you go xxx

I LOVE YOU

G'day Mr Moon.

So, you are telling us that as two sexually immature individuals joining together into a monogamous relationship for a 13 year period, this the is the "most" of any "relationship there could ever be". Having had sex with only one individual, how is it that you set yourself up as the judge of other's relationships when you make your statement of superiority that your relationship has, in your mind, over all others ???

Now, as all is one, your relationship can not be "more" (read superior) to any other relationship.

Also, if you have only had "but one lover", would that preclude loving yourself as you masturbated ???

And if it does, then you do not love yourself, so then, as all is one, how can you love another ???

"So there you go" ..... & ..... Here I Am.


G'day Coolhermit.

Welcome to the forum.

I agree with you totally about monogamy being a "life style option". I personally see it as a choice for each individual to make as to how they would describe themselves. It is not something that can be enforced by a marriage certificate, or by any expectation from a partner. It is something that can only be expressed, not given, and the reasons for the expression of it are totally personal.

For me, I see marriage as a way of one individual 'forcing' another individual into a monogamous relationship. For within a marriage, if you have sex with anyone else you are 'labeled' an adulterous, which is considered a criminal offence, and although not prosecuted as far as I am aware, it is grounds for a divorce.

The expectation of monogamy in a partner is not unconditional love. Unconditional love would freely allow any partner to do with their body whatever they chose to and would be supportive of that partner making that choice. This would preclude any labels of adultery or recriminations of wrongdoing. When, as individuals within a society, we allow each other to freely express ourselves in the manner that each of us chooses to, then we will be living in a society that is expressing unconditional love and thus BE an example to the children of the world, who learn patterns of behaviour by observing the way that we interact with each other. By BEING an example of unconditional love, we will free the following generations of a learned pattern of behaviour, thus freeing them to BE themselves, the individuated aspect of ALL THAT IS, LOVE, that they truly are.

THANK YOU



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YOUR BELIEFS WILL IMPRISON YOU.

What is TRUTH ? . . . .THAT THE ONENESS IS ALL !!!
What is JOY ? . . . . . .ALL THAT THE ONENESS IS !!!
What is LOVE ? . . . . .THE ONENESS THAT IS ALL !!!
What is LIFE ? . . . . . ALL THAT IS THE ONENESS !!!
WHO AM I ? . . . . . . .THE ONENESS THAT ALL IS !!!

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Do you wanna reformat your sig so it doesn't fuck up the screen mate. Jezzus.

Well, maybe Mr Moon just happened to find his soulmate earlier than most people. I don't think he said his relationship was superior to anyone elses, he was just saying he is happy with it, and what's wrong with that? Everyone is free to choose....as you pretty much say, I think, sometimes. And if he has a deep connection with his wife, what need is there to sleep around with other women? And if both Mr moon and his wife are happy with just each other, and are satisfied with just each other, what need is there to fuck everyone on earth? LOL . They aren't restricting each other, so there's no problem! Live and let live

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cloud

Very well said cloud and I agree totally.

I don't feel the need to shag around now, and I don't have my soul mate, so if I found them I certainly wouldn't feel the need to start doing so.

I know what you mean K-fed. I have to keep sliding me screen across because of it and it is waste of bandwidth. BT broadband charge me for downloading stuff after a certain amount. Thinking of switching images off when using this site because of all the over the top sigs.

I don't mean to get at anyone, and yes I am new here so call me a cheeky sod if you want, but it does annoy me. People are trying to express themselves I can see that, but surely it would be better just to link to a web site with all those graphics on???